New Swingers
A few notes about joining the swinging scene.
Can I become a swinger?
Of course you can. Everyone is welcomed in the
swinging community, as whatever your shape, size, colour, tastes,
fantasies or shoe size is, someone, somewhere will be looking for
you.
OK, so how do I start?
Determine what you (if single) or you and your
partner want to do, Be prepared to discuss your needs, and your
partners, be prepared for some surprises, as you may well find that
the things you have talked about as pillow talk are just the start
of some very exciting fantasies. Remember that you both need to feel
comfortable with what you are going to do, so define behaviour
boundaries for each meeting or club visit.
Go to the event, and stay within the agreed
boundaries. There have been many incidents where one partner has
abandoned the agreement mid way through the evening, which is going
to cause the evening to end in arguments.
Remember that at anytime, you or the other people or
person can say NO. At this point activity stops. Never ignore a
person who asks you to stop playing, physical contact after this
point is rape.
After the event, go home and play, talk about the
evening, what you liked and disliked, how it could be more fun, and
what you should avoid on future meetings.
So how do I/we find someone to "Play" with?
The Internet
As you are reading this, you obviously have
access to a computer and the internet. This is the quickest
medium to make contact with swingers.
Click the "Join Now" button on the menu, and start
browsing through the thousands of people here in the Alicante
area looking to play with
people like you.
Once you have found some potential playmates,
write them a message. Remember that you are not the only person
looking, and probably not the only person trying to contact the
people you have found. You need to check their profile to make
sure that your details match what they are looking for, you will
then need to sell yourselves without being arrogant, write
telling them a bit about yourselves and what you want to try.
You may get a response, you may not, but
don't give up, with thousands of people in this area in the scene, you will
find someone somewhere.
Contact Magazines
These adult magazines are on sale in most
countries. They consist of dozens of small ads of people looking
for others to play with. You read the magazine, write letters to
the people you like the look of, and then send your letters to
the magazine for them to forward to the advertisers.
You will often find these on the bottom shelves
of newspapers and magazines in petrol stations here in Spain.
The two main titles are "Los Contactos Reales" (about 5 euros)
and "Clima" (about 1.50 euros).
This method works, but is slow. It can be 3
months or more before an ad is printed, and days or weeks for
your letter to reach the advertiser and for them to reply to
you.
Swingers Clubs and Parties
There are thousands of swingers clubs around the
world, and they make an ideal venue for meeting other people.
Most have a bar/relaxation area where you can meet other
swingers in safety, and where should you find someone compatible
you have the facilities to play.
Check with the club before you go to make sure
that the day you intend to visit they cater for people you could
want to meet.
Clubs often have nights geared to meet the needs
of different groups within the swinging scene:
- Couples Only nights - catering for couple
who want to meet couples. Single males are always barred
from these events, though single ladies are usually allowed.
- Greedy Girl / gang bang nights - catering
for the girl who likes lots of male attention. The ratio of
men to women is from 3 to 1, to 10 to 1. This can sound
daunting, but ladies are treated with respect, and only play
with as many, or as few, of the men as they want to.
- Bi nights - generally for couples only where
both are bi-sexual.
- Fetish nights - dressing up, whips and
chains, oil and leather and lace.
- Gay nights - usually geared towards gay men,
though some cater for gay females as well.
Use the club
list on this site for clubs in the Alicante area and within
a short drive of Alicante.
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